It took me a long time to like myself. I am still in the process of learning that I don’t need to act like anyone else. It’s hard to not compare ourselves to others in this day and age. Have you ever wondered if LeBron James is the next Michael Jordan? Maybe you, as a writer, have dreamed about becoming the next J.K. Rowling or Tom Clancy. The problem is there is no such thing.
In Jeremiah 1:5 God declared, “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart”. The key word is ‘apart’. We were all made differently. Not better or worse. Different. You and I were not made to be anyone else.
I remember this guy that I wanted to be just like in high school. He looked like Kurt Cobain, and back then I thought he was the epitome of coolness. As a freshman I often observed this bigger-than-life senior and imagined I would be just like him in a few years. That is until I tried to talk to him at our local home improvement store.
I was working a shift at my first ever job (helping people carry out their drywall) when in came this idol of mine. The problem was he caught me staring at him. Then, his true personality came out. He basically acted like a tough guy and stared me down, giving me the impression he would mop the floor with me if I didn’t look away. I looked away.
After that encounter I realized I didn’t want to be that guy. Call me weird, but I’m the kind of person that wants to say ‘Hi’ to people rather than beat them up. I have found out my kindness is actually a good quality when it comes to selling my books. Unfortunately, it was hard to view being nice as a good character trait when I was a 16-year-old guy.
I bet you have some amazing qualities. Maybe some that you don’t fully appreciate the value of. They might not line up with how successful people you know act. Let me say, you will never reach your full potential until you are willing to be who you were created to be. There is no one exactly like you and there never will be. The world needs you!
Try hard to be yourself and watch as people you never dreamed of are drawn to what you are doing.
A little bit about me and "Relational Selling"
My name is Daniel Vasi. I am a speaker, writer, and math teacher. I used to be the kind of person that wanted people to read what I wrote so much that I would have given you a book for free if you told me you couldn’t afford it right now. Although there is some merit to that, it’s not how a writer makes a living. I have struggled in this area because I was scared of being seen as a sly salesman, taking advantage of people to sell my product.
I have come to find out there is a middle ground where we can market ourselves while remaining true to who we are. We can sell our books and feel good about it. It starts by believing that someone can pay us for our work and benefit from it. Unlike I originally thought, we don’t have to take advantage of people to make money. I call this relational selling. Selling our products with integrity. As far as I can see, there is no better way to do it.
Maybe you find yourself closer to one extreme. Either you find it difficult to truly care for the customer, or you care too much. In my future blog posts I want to help you become a great salesperson by moving ever closer to the balance point in the middle of these two extremes . . . the point where relational selling thrives.
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